An Outsider's Inquiry into a Dangerous Subculture
Author’s note: No real individuals are named except for public figures already in the news. The author is not and has never been a looksmaxxer. This essay is not an invitation to explore looksmaxxing. It is a warning. If you are a young man struggling with your appearance or your place in the world, the solution is not calipers and...
Let me tell you a story about a 20-year-old who had everything that modern internet fame can give a person. He had a club in Miami Beach. He had a face that thousands of young men wanted to copy. He had an audience that grew by the week. He had legal trouble, yes. He had controversy, absolutely. But he had something else too: momentum.
Then several things happened. None of them went the way he...
A Practical, Compassionate Guide to Your 20s and Beyond
How to Use This Essay
This is not meant to be read in one sitting, though you can. The better way is slowly: one lesson per week, with time to sit with it, notice where it shows up in your life, and decide what fits.
Some lessons will land immediately. Others will feel irrelevant or even wrong — until six months from now, when...
Act I: The Pragmatic Bro
I never worked the door at a college bar. I always got carded — even when I was older. Some nights, depending on what I wore, I got right in. Other nights, I stood outside waiting for friends who were "five minutes away" (forty-five minutes ago), passing the time, people-watching with a phone at 2% battery. Same movie played out night after night.
Guys lining up...
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